Can it Be True Love at First Sight?

Can it Be True Love at First Sight?
by Luckzz Kahaar


Love at first sight is real. Or can be. Because true love is from God. I'm a Christian, I believe in God! And for that reason I believe that there is love at first sight. God sometimes maybe lets people (like me) see right away who He intended them to love and marry.

Love is different with everyone because we are all different! You can't describe true love for anyone! Everyone's experience of loving or being in love is totally unique. Because we area all unique! There are no hard and fast rules in love. Sometimes love at first sight is true. Sometimes it's not. Sometimes you really love someone you've dated for 10 years. Sometimes you don't.

I am so tired of the people that say smugly, "i believe in lust at first sight" because they don't know. I don't have problems with lust, and I have experienced that feeling of "wow, look, there he is, the guy I was created for". I just looked at his eyes from the side and I got that feeling. I wasn't looking at his body at all.

Please believe me- that even if it hasn't happened to you, or never will, it is POSSIBLE. Please do not listen to these other people. Although they mean well, I know personally that there can be real, true, lasting love (not LUST or INFATUATION! Boy am I sick of those dumb words! People just use them to sound grownup and weird and fancy shmancy! {not to "dis" you other folks, but that's what it seems like to me:)} at first meeting- and yes, even at first sight.

As to what it feels like... everyone is totally different. If you think you are in love, and you love someone very much, more than any one else, than you ARE in love- for the time being. You may, who knows, some day, find someone else who you will be able to love even more. Not because you didn't love the first one- you did, as much as you could at the time. But each new person you fall in love with you seem to be able to love more.

Who can say whether we are all in love a dozen times in our life, or if we only "really" love one of those people, or if we never "truly" loved any of them?

Love is different for every person, at every different time. Sometimes it makes you sad, sometime it makes you happy, sometime insecure, sometimes confident. No one knows. But if you think you're in love, then tell yourself you are and go with your emotions, whether you become mournfully melancholy or exuberantly happy. There is nothing sweeter than feeling something deeply and telling yourself you're in love, whether it's for an hour or a lifetime- or eternity.

I fell in love from first sight with someone I have only met twice in the past two years I still am. For many reasons in a long story, we can't contact each other, nor do we "date" so there isn't a questions of all that "faithfulness" junk. But I knew at the first second that I was made for him and someday God will see we marry and live happily ever after. Sometime I will type up the whole story and post it on every "love at first sight" page and question and blog in the whole wide internet.

Again, I am not saying that love at first sight is the only right kind of love. Maybe you will hate the person you eventually fall in love with! Maybe it will take you years to gradually love them! Who knows? I am not saying that it is the only true kind of love. With some people, it may take a while to fall in love with their soul mate. But love at first sight is so very possible! Sometimes the good Lord is kind enough to show you right away. Like he showed me.

Is It Time to Go Forward or Step Back In Your Relationship?

by dcworx_ltd


Many people are stuck in relationships that seem to be going nowhere. They aren't moving forward and neither of the people involved is ready to throw in the towel. Relationships can't always be fun, exciting, and you won't always be filled with that intoxicating feeling that you are overcome with when you first meet someone. But, how does one know when it is time to quit a relationship or time to take the next step?

So many people say that they "just knew" that it was right when they met that special someone. Don't worry; if you aren't sure, you aren't alone. In fact, many people have doubts, even as they are taking that next step, or even as they are walking down the aisle. It's normal to question whether someone, and your current situation, is right for you, right for the person you are involved with, and will fulfill you over time.

Relationships are hard, and they take a lot of compromise. If you think that the relationship you are in should end, what are your reasons? It's a good idea to sit down and list all of the good and bad things about the relationship. Then, look at the good things; do the bad elements of the relationship outweigh the good things? Are the bad elements of the relationship anything that you could change? Are you or your partner willing to change, or is best to throw in the towel before you waste anymore time? Really analyze the relationship, you should have to earn your way out of the relationship and quitting should be the last option.

If you think that you should go forward in the relationship, you should also analyze this choice. For instance, if you have been dating the same person for ten years and you suddenly want to get married, why the sudden change? Are you in a hurry because you think you "should" get married? If you are feeling pressure from other people and the decision didn't come from the heart, taking the next step may not be the best idea. If you want to progress in the relationship it should come from the heart and you should take steps to see if the relationship really can stand the test of time. If there are things that you cannot stand about the person you are with, then don't take the next step. On the other hand, if you have just needed ten years to get comfortable with the idea of marriage, that's fine! You just need to be sure that the next step is yours and that you are comfortable with it.

Relationships take a lot of work and we all realize what we want and need at different times. If you believe it may be time to end a relationship or take that next step forward, be sure that it is a logical thought process. It's always a good idea to list the pros and cons of your decision and then go from there. When you are sure of what you want, it's a lot easier to make a relationship work or make a clean break.

Tips For A Happy Relationship

by j_hardcastle89

here's no denying that maintaining a relationship is a lot of work. Almost fifty percent of all marriages end in divorce, and many wonder how people can maintain their relationships over their entire lives. To that end, we've created this article to help showcase some tips that can help you to get through the rough spots in your relationship and keep you happy throughout the duration of your courting.

- It's important to keep a light mood in a relationship. While trust and maturity are important to a relationship, it's important to be lighthearted. Relationships are supposed to make us happy; many of us often forget this simple fact and end up getting nothing but grief and stress. Be sure that you can joke with your partner, and that they can poke fun at you.

- Try your best not to focus on your differences. If the two of you are in disagreement on a topic, discuss it once and then try to avoid the issue if you're still in conflict. The more differentiation between the two individuals in a relationship, the more problems generally arise. For that reason, it's important to keep conflicts to a minimum.

- Keep things interesting. While routines can be simple to follow, it's important to think outside of the box in your relationship to keep an aspect of excitement present. Take a spontaneous trip, or pick up a new hobby with your loved one to help add a little touch of excitement to the relationship. It often works wonders in helping couples that have been going through the same motions for years and years.

- Be sure to forgive each other when problems arise. The more that you let a problem stew inside of you, the more likely you are to blow up when the issue comes up in conversation. That's not fair for your partner, so discuss things as they need to be discussed, and then leave the issues in the past unless a future experience merits further discussion of it.

- If living together, or seeing each other altogether too often, it's important to get some time away from your loved one. Being apart for a little while shows you that the things that you may take for granted in your relationship may be more important than you realize. Being able to lead your own lives is important in a relationship, and it is not a factor that should be brushed to the side.

Ideas For Cheap Wedding Cakes

by Nicola Ray


A little out-of-the-box thinking can help you find lots of ideas for cheap wedding cakes. Some of these ideas can help you find a tasty, beautiful cake without spending way too much money.

Try out the supermarket

Lots of supermarkets actually have beautiful cakes that would make great wedding cakes. For the best bet, check out Asda and Waitrose, who have lots of plain iced ‘celebration' cakes to choose from.

Marks and Spencer actually has a wedding cake service that makes beautiful cakes at only a small percent of the specialist bakeries. Actually, a cake specialist recently recommended using Marks and Spencer to me for wedding cakes.

Give your cake different flavours

Some types of cakes, like rich fruit cakes, are more expensive because they take a lot longer to make. Fruit cakes are expensive because the fruit has to be soaked before it can even be baked, and paying someone to go through this whole process for you is really expensive.

One idea for cheap wedding cakes is to order a layer cake with different flavours in each layer. If your fiancé desperately wants a fruit cake on his wedding day, consider making the smallest top layer in this flavour and then using cheaper varieties like chocolate or vanilla for the lower layers.

Use smaller cakes

Little cakes – like fairy cakes – can make a gorgeous wedding cake if you display them correctly, and they're cheaper because they usually use fewer ingredients. You can even have your friends help with your special day by making a few small cakes each.

Don't overdo the decoration

Buy a plain iced cake, which is much cheaper than an elaborately decorated one, and give it the finishing touches yourself. You don't even have to know how to decorate with icing, as you can use fresh flowers and fruits to dress the cake in your wedding colours. My best friend and I both did this for our cheap wedding cake, and they turned out beautifully.

Ask for it as a gift

If you have a friend or relative who is a skilled baker or cake decorator, see if he or she will make your wedding cake as your gift. Your baker will probably be more than happy to give you a wedding present that you'll never forget.

Planning Your Wedding Reception

by Georgina Clatworthy

When it comes to planning the wedding reception , it pays to know exactly what your budget is. The good news is that no matter what the size of your budget, large or small, there is a perfect reception venue available for everyone.

As a guide, your wedding budget should allocate 30% of the total to your reception. Where costs can really start to mount is in the smaller details such as decorations, rentals & outside catering. Here are some hints & tips to help you cut the cost of your reception food & drink, as well how to throw your reception on tight budget.

Renting a Hall

If you choose to rent a hall or large room for your reception, then there are several things that you will need to take in to account beforehand. For example there is the cost of hiring the room, using their servers (many will have them include in the price & may not be negotiable), then there is the cost of decorations, flowers, food & beverages.

With hiring a hall there are several things that you will have to pay for, such as decorations & beverage. But some hall venues will give you a range of options to pick & choose as you like.

Your choice of hall type will also have an impact on your budget. For example a grand banqueting hall will typically cost more than a community hall. Another consideration is if your budget is small to start with, then renting a hall could leave you with more effort & fewer options than booking a package with a different style of venue.

Here are some tips about renting a hall & keeping your costs down.

1. Halls should only be considered if you have 50 or more guests on your list.

2. Choose between an open bar or a cash bar for your reception, when renting a hall. An good alternative is to provide beer yourselves & have a cash bar for those want a mixed drink.

3. Choose a hall you can decorate yourselves.

4. If you need servers, then choose a hall that has them included in the price or one that will let you bring your own.

5. Make sure your choice of hall will cater to your needs & budget.

6. Avoid extra costs for catering & hire a hall that will let you supply your own food.

7. Save money on your catering with finger foods, vegetable & fruit trays. This will also cater to the vegetarians among your guests.

8. A casual style buffet reception will be cheaper than a formal sit down meal.

9. Have a cash bar as an alternative to giving a wedding gift. It is a great way to accommodate your guests & will save you money on the hall hire.

10. Choose a midweek wedding date as weekend dates are always more expensive.

11. Good rates can be had for winter time weddings.

12. Pay by cash & negotiate a deal on the price for doing so. Most venues will have to pay a charge to accept payments by credit cards so they are more likely to agree.

13. You can save on your catering costs by holding the reception in the daytime & offer just canapés or snacks, rather than a formal evening meal.

Having a hall wedding reception needn’t cost you the earth, particularly if you pull some of the tricks I have mentioned. Also consider holding your reception outdoors. Some may think that an indoors reception is more elegant than an outdoors one, but this needn’t be the case & an outdoor event can be more fun & cost you less.

How to Improve Our Inter Personal Relationship

by Srinivasa Balaji


Any successful human being will be having a unique characteristic within them, which differentiates others from them. Inter personal relationship is one such thing which is often overlooked by all of us.

In day to day life we interact with our family members, friends, colleagues, boss and subordinates. Are we paying enough attention to the words, which we utter while communicating with all?

Johari window is a concept, which is used to bridge the gap between the relationship and analysis to find out reasons and remedies for improvement.

The window consists of four panes namely open, close, blind and dark areas. Open area is formed when frankness is present on mutual basis. When one side tries to hide the facts close area is formed. Blind area is caused mainly out of ignorance for which SWOT analysis will be a valuable tool. Dark area is reduced when we attempt to reduce our Blind and Close areas. It is a proven fact that success is the result of openness.

When we start analyzing our dialogues and observing our reactions to others words and action, the thinking process will be initiated and soon our Inter personal relationship with others will improve a lot.

Another way of gaining more open area is to try for Win-win solutions to our daily problems both at home and office. In this context empathetic view will come in to play while suggesting any ideas or implementing solutions to a problem.

Thanks to the current age social networking sites the relationship is fast built beyond borders.The real happiness is in making another person feel happy. Let us all propagate this message across our forum so that peace and tranquility prevails within us.

Key Ways Men Can Prepare For a Relationship

by Ade D'Almeida


Men must prepare for romantic relationships, too! After all, you will be one-half of the whole relationship so it makes logical sense to be the better half of your partner's other half.

Here then are the key ways men can prepare for relationships. These tips are similar and yet different from the key ways women can prepare for relationships. Men are from Mars and women are from Venus and the two must meet on Earth comes into the picture. Naturally it then follows that men will have their on unique way of preparing for a relationship.

Develop Your Personal Strategy

Even in the more liberated 21st century, the enjoyable task of chasing after the woman of your dreams still squarely fall into your lap. You have to woo the lady with flowers, chocolates, romantic dates and sweet words, which may sound very old-fashioned but are still very effective in this day and age. Besides, you may find yourself turned off by an overly aggressive woman.

Now, you don't just launch into the courtship stage without some form of preparation! Although spontaneity is appreciated, it pays to develop your personal strategy for courtship simply because you want to stand out from among her other suitors. Taking time to think through how you wish to approach a lady and conduct yourself in the relationship could earn you brownie points as the lady you are attempting to have a relationship with can see your thought and effort in trying to win her heart. The key to success in the development of your personal strategy is to be yourself and to take actions you feel are natural with. At the end of the day women want to be with a man who is genuine and sincere.

Determine What Your Ideal Woman Is.

Well, okay, there is no such thing as an ideal woman as there is no such thing as an ideal man. Besides, do you really want to have a relationship with a woman who does not have a personality beyond what you want her to possess as an ideal mate? Well, probably not because that would be very boring indeed.

Basically, what we are talking about here as one of the key ways men can prepare for relationships is to have a general idea of what they want in a woman. Questions you may want to ask yourself are as follows; Do you want her to be a career woman who can balance relationship and work? Do you want a domestic type of lady? Do you want her to be an extrovert or an introvert? Do you want her to get along with your family or just get along with you? Do not underestimate thinking through what your expectations are. It will help you in the long run to know what you will and will not tolerate in a relationship. In addition it will help you in the selction of the woman who ultimately will be your date.

Think of what you want in a woman with your family and friends as well as work on top of your mind. At the very least, you can narrow down your choices of women to woo. However, do be prepared for some curveballs because life is surprising that way.

Well, of course, when you are determining who your ideal woman is, you should also become the ideal man for that one special lady. Become a better person, widen your horizons and develop your character are just some of the ways to do so.

Develop Your Physical Appearance

Just like with women, you have to make yourself look attractive to the opposite sex. You may have to look at yourself in the mirror, assess your strengths and weaknesses, and then do something about it.

Your actions may include eating well, hitting the gym, adopting good personal hygiene and dressing to impress. You will find that you are an attractive bee to the waiting flowers.

The key ways men can prepare for relationships are common sense. You have to become a person in your own right, become a better person on the inside and become an attractive person on the outside - the total package, so to speak. The more you are comfortable with yourself the easier it will be for you to relate with women and as a consequence find your ideal mate.