Can it Be True Love at First Sight?
by Luckzz Kahaar
Love at first sight is real. Or can be. Because true love is from God. I'm a Christian, I believe in God! And for that reason I believe that there is love at first sight. God sometimes maybe lets people (like me) see right away who He intended them to love and marry.
Love is different with everyone because we are all different! You can't describe true love for anyone! Everyone's experience of loving or being in love is totally unique. Because we area all unique! There are no hard and fast rules in love. Sometimes love at first sight is true. Sometimes it's not. Sometimes you really love someone you've dated for 10 years. Sometimes you don't.
I am so tired of the people that say smugly, "i believe in lust at first sight" because they don't know. I don't have problems with lust, and I have experienced that feeling of "wow, look, there he is, the guy I was created for". I just looked at his eyes from the side and I got that feeling. I wasn't looking at his body at all.
Please believe me- that even if it hasn't happened to you, or never will, it is POSSIBLE. Please do not listen to these other people. Although they mean well, I know personally that there can be real, true, lasting love (not LUST or INFATUATION! Boy am I sick of those dumb words! People just use them to sound grownup and weird and fancy shmancy! {not to "dis" you other folks, but that's what it seems like to me:)} at first meeting- and yes, even at first sight.
As to what it feels like... everyone is totally different. If you think you are in love, and you love someone very much, more than any one else, than you ARE in love- for the time being. You may, who knows, some day, find someone else who you will be able to love even more. Not because you didn't love the first one- you did, as much as you could at the time. But each new person you fall in love with you seem to be able to love more.
Who can say whether we are all in love a dozen times in our life, or if we only "really" love one of those people, or if we never "truly" loved any of them?
Love is different for every person, at every different time. Sometimes it makes you sad, sometime it makes you happy, sometime insecure, sometimes confident. No one knows. But if you think you're in love, then tell yourself you are and go with your emotions, whether you become mournfully melancholy or exuberantly happy. There is nothing sweeter than feeling something deeply and telling yourself you're in love, whether it's for an hour or a lifetime- or eternity.
I fell in love from first sight with someone I have only met twice in the past two years I still am. For many reasons in a long story, we can't contact each other, nor do we "date" so there isn't a questions of all that "faithfulness" junk. But I knew at the first second that I was made for him and someday God will see we marry and live happily ever after. Sometime I will type up the whole story and post it on every "love at first sight" page and question and blog in the whole wide internet.
Again, I am not saying that love at first sight is the only right kind of love. Maybe you will hate the person you eventually fall in love with! Maybe it will take you years to gradually love them! Who knows? I am not saying that it is the only true kind of love. With some people, it may take a while to fall in love with their soul mate. But love at first sight is so very possible! Sometimes the good Lord is kind enough to show you right away. Like he showed me.
Tuesday, March 9, 2010
Tuesday, March 2, 2010
Is It Time to Go Forward or Step Back In Your Relationship?
by dcworx_ltd
Many people are stuck in relationships that seem to be going nowhere. They aren't moving forward and neither of the people involved is ready to throw in the towel. Relationships can't always be fun, exciting, and you won't always be filled with that intoxicating feeling that you are overcome with when you first meet someone. But, how does one know when it is time to quit a relationship or time to take the next step?
So many people say that they "just knew" that it was right when they met that special someone. Don't worry; if you aren't sure, you aren't alone. In fact, many people have doubts, even as they are taking that next step, or even as they are walking down the aisle. It's normal to question whether someone, and your current situation, is right for you, right for the person you are involved with, and will fulfill you over time.
Relationships are hard, and they take a lot of compromise. If you think that the relationship you are in should end, what are your reasons? It's a good idea to sit down and list all of the good and bad things about the relationship. Then, look at the good things; do the bad elements of the relationship outweigh the good things? Are the bad elements of the relationship anything that you could change? Are you or your partner willing to change, or is best to throw in the towel before you waste anymore time? Really analyze the relationship, you should have to earn your way out of the relationship and quitting should be the last option.
If you think that you should go forward in the relationship, you should also analyze this choice. For instance, if you have been dating the same person for ten years and you suddenly want to get married, why the sudden change? Are you in a hurry because you think you "should" get married? If you are feeling pressure from other people and the decision didn't come from the heart, taking the next step may not be the best idea. If you want to progress in the relationship it should come from the heart and you should take steps to see if the relationship really can stand the test of time. If there are things that you cannot stand about the person you are with, then don't take the next step. On the other hand, if you have just needed ten years to get comfortable with the idea of marriage, that's fine! You just need to be sure that the next step is yours and that you are comfortable with it.
Relationships take a lot of work and we all realize what we want and need at different times. If you believe it may be time to end a relationship or take that next step forward, be sure that it is a logical thought process. It's always a good idea to list the pros and cons of your decision and then go from there. When you are sure of what you want, it's a lot easier to make a relationship work or make a clean break.
Many people are stuck in relationships that seem to be going nowhere. They aren't moving forward and neither of the people involved is ready to throw in the towel. Relationships can't always be fun, exciting, and you won't always be filled with that intoxicating feeling that you are overcome with when you first meet someone. But, how does one know when it is time to quit a relationship or time to take the next step?
So many people say that they "just knew" that it was right when they met that special someone. Don't worry; if you aren't sure, you aren't alone. In fact, many people have doubts, even as they are taking that next step, or even as they are walking down the aisle. It's normal to question whether someone, and your current situation, is right for you, right for the person you are involved with, and will fulfill you over time.
Relationships are hard, and they take a lot of compromise. If you think that the relationship you are in should end, what are your reasons? It's a good idea to sit down and list all of the good and bad things about the relationship. Then, look at the good things; do the bad elements of the relationship outweigh the good things? Are the bad elements of the relationship anything that you could change? Are you or your partner willing to change, or is best to throw in the towel before you waste anymore time? Really analyze the relationship, you should have to earn your way out of the relationship and quitting should be the last option.
If you think that you should go forward in the relationship, you should also analyze this choice. For instance, if you have been dating the same person for ten years and you suddenly want to get married, why the sudden change? Are you in a hurry because you think you "should" get married? If you are feeling pressure from other people and the decision didn't come from the heart, taking the next step may not be the best idea. If you want to progress in the relationship it should come from the heart and you should take steps to see if the relationship really can stand the test of time. If there are things that you cannot stand about the person you are with, then don't take the next step. On the other hand, if you have just needed ten years to get comfortable with the idea of marriage, that's fine! You just need to be sure that the next step is yours and that you are comfortable with it.
Relationships take a lot of work and we all realize what we want and need at different times. If you believe it may be time to end a relationship or take that next step forward, be sure that it is a logical thought process. It's always a good idea to list the pros and cons of your decision and then go from there. When you are sure of what you want, it's a lot easier to make a relationship work or make a clean break.
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